Healthy personal boundaries help maintain healthy relationships and promote stronger mental health and security in life.
In this lesson we’ll take a look at some of the main reasons why it’s important to set good personal boundaries.
One of the first reasons healthy boundaries are so important is that they’re an essential part of self-care.
Sometimes self-care gets a reputation of being self-centered, and those that are naturally empathetic or helpful may feel like they should be spending that energy helping others.
There’s no doubt that taking care of other people is a worthy goal, but the saying “you can’t pour from an empty cup” is appropriate here.
If you continually spend all the emotional, physical, and financial resources on others will feel depleted, stressed, and frustrated.
They may begin experiencing feelings like anger or depression which may make them react in ways that hurt others -- the exact opposite of what they want to do.
Self-care is more than going to the spa or buying luxury items. Self-care means looking after your mental, physical, emotional, and spiritual well-being. It means having limits in place and listening to your mind and body when you’re pushing yourself too far, especially when it comes to taking care of other people’s needs.
On the other end of the spectrum are those whose boundaries are very rigid and resolute. People who have overly strict boundaries can also create personal challenges.
People with rigid boundaries often want to maintain a high level of control in their life. They don’t want to be managed by others, and they may be wary of allowing people into their inner circle.
A person with rigid boundaries may have experienced past trauma or a form of abuse. They may feel those firm personal boundaries will protect them from future trauma. It’s a natural inclination to want to shut others out after being hurt, but it can also hold a person back from living the life they want to live.
In addition, those who create walls between themselves and others have trouble forming deep and meaningful relationships with others. These relationships often remain shallow and unsatisfying, and others may interpret the barriers to mean that the person is uncaring or disinterested.
Finding ways to maintain personal boundaries while still allowing others in emotionally, physically, and mentally is an important step for those who are very strict with their boundaries.